The vacation season brings many celebrations and, therefore, it is the primary source of social anxiety. If you’re feeling shyer than you’d like, you’re in good company. A good number of children – and adults – say they become anxious under social situations.
While it’s not easy to step out of your comfort zone, it often does a lot of good. That’s because our fears disappear when we start doing the things that worry us. “The odds are the strangest consequence that you fear won’t happen,” says Dr. Busman. “And even if it does, you’ll find that you have the skills to deal with it.”
It’s good to start small and lighten up inside. It’s essential to set goals that feel meaningful to you; you don’t have to run for president. Or, if you want to volunteer at the local animal shelter but are still anxious, start by bringing a friend or relative along for the adventure. This is because exercising the things that make you nervous helps you expand your ability to handle them. This is true even when things don’t go exactly the way you want them to. Case in point: many children are hesitant to ask their teachers questions because they’re afraid they are supposed to know the answer.
Conversely, caffeine can make you feel more stressed. Therefore, you should cut back on soda and coffee in general, but especially before the things that make you anxious. This may help you deal with social anxiety. However, if you feel very anxious and find it impossible to do these things, Dr. Busman says it is almost always a good idea to talk to your parents. “Tell them how you’re feeling. Anxiety is something you can certainly get help for, but telling someone you need help is the first step.…